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The Truth About Abuse

What is domestic violence?
…and are you a victim?

Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Domestic violence is most commonly thought of as when a husband or boyfriend physically abuses his wife or girlfriend. But domestic violence is much broader than this common definition of physical abuse.

Domestic violence happens when there is a pattern of one partner having power over another through the use of fear, intimidation and control. Often, physical abuse is part of this, though not in all cases. Many women who are being threatened, controlled and intimidated don’t realize they are domestic violence victims because they are not beaten.

Men can also be domestic violence victims, as can same-sex partners. Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen with couples who are married, living together or dating, and effects people of all education levels. If you want to learn more please contact us at the One Place Family Justice Center.

Examples of abuse include:

  • Name-calling or putdowns
  • Monitoring conversations
  • Withholding financial information
  • Stalking or intimidation
  • Belittling your accomplishments
  • Sexual assault
  • Preventing you from leaving
  • Refusing to help you if you need it
  • Abandoning you in dangerous places
  • Locking you out of the house
  • Disabling your vehicle
  • Threatening your children
  • Threatening to hurt or kill you
  • Ridiculing your appearance
  • Punching, hitting, slapping, kicking, or other physical harm
  • Keeping you from contacting family or friends

Domestic Abuse is not your fault. Contrary to popular belief, domestic violence is not caused by stress, mental illness, alcohol, or drugs. The only true cause of domestic violence are the abusers’ choices to act violently and control their intimate partners.