Safety Planning

Planning for your safety and the safety of those living in your home is vital to your well-being.

A Safety Plan is a personalized, practical plan that includes ways to remain safe while in a relationship, planning to leave, or after you leave.

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A Safety Plan - While living with an abusive partner

  • Identify safe areas of your home

  • Safe areas have ways to escape

  • If arguments arise, move to the safe area

  • Don’t run to where the children are located

  • If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target

  • Go to a corner, curl up into a ball, protect your face

  • If possible, have a phone accessible

  • Always know what numbers to call for help

  • If your life is in danger, call 911

  • Let trusted friends and neighbors know in case you need help

  • Teach your children how to get help

  • Teach your children not to get involved in the violence

  • Tell your children that violence is never right

  • Practice how to get out safely.  Practice with your children

  • Plan what you are going to do if your children tell your abuser your plan

  • Keep weapons like guns and knives locked away

  • Make a habit of backing car into driveway for easy departure

  • Try not to wear scarves & long jewelry that can be used to strangle

  • Create several plausible reasons to leave the house at different times of day

  • Practice leaving at different times of day

  • Know where you are going when you leave

  • Have one or two locations where you will go

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Violence tends to escalate when you try to leave

Some things to keep in mind before you leave!

  • Keep any evidence of physical abuse, such as pictures of injuries

  • Keep a journal of all violent incidences – dates, events, threats

  • Keep journal in a safe place | Know where to get help

  • Tell someone what is happening to you

  • If injured, go to a doctor or an emergency room

  • If injured, make a report of what happened to you

  • Plan with your children

  • Identify a safe place for children to go if violence erupts

  • Reassure children their job is to stay safe, not to protect you

  • Try to set money aside or ask a friend to keep money for you

Important Papers

  • Driver’s license

  • Birth certificate 

  • Children’s birth certificates

  • Social security cards

  • Financial information

  • Money and/or credit cards - (in your name)

  • Checking and/or savings account books

  • Protective order

  • Copies of any lease or rental agreements, or deed to home

  • Car registration, health & life insurance papers

  • Medical records for you and your children

  • School records

  • Passport | Visa, etc.

  • Divorce and custody papers

  • Marriage license

  • Your local police and/or sheriff’s department

  • Your local domestic violence program or shelter

  • Friends, relatives and family members

  • Your local doctor’s office, hospital and

    Family Justice Center

  • Medications

  • Extra set of house and car keys

  • Valuable jewelry

  • Pay-as-you-go cell phone

  • Address book

  • Pictures and sentimental items

  • Several changes of clothes for you and your children

  • Emergency money

Have a plan for when violence escalates in the home. Always be aware of the closest exit and how you are going to get out when violence occurs.

The National Center on Domestic Violence & Sexual Violence

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